That's part of growing up not college. There are plenty of people in college and graduates that act like they are still in highschool. College is not what matures you, it gives opportunity to those that are ready to mature and they would still have changed had they went into the work force instead of college. It isn't college it is that time in everyone's life you leave home and become an adult, those next few years changes you regardless of the path you choose. I went to college, I wasn't ready for it, my lack of motivation and foresight caused me to drop out of two different universities.
I am now working a blue collar job, have my own place, pay my bills on time, have a great credit score and having to be an adult in the work world has changed me miles more and allowed me to grow as a person. College was a road block for that in my life. I will be going back to finish a degree because I think I'm ready now. What I'm saying is everyone is different, some will grow up during these years and some won't but college isn't what facilitates it.
I just started my degree at 25, though I do feel like I must be missing out on the "great college experience", somehow I feel that if I started earlier on college right after high school, I might never become who I am right now. Moving out and paying rent and bills and having adult responsibilities really change you. And if I went back to college now, after working on a career for a decade, I'd have little if anything in common with your average college student. I wasn't saying that the college experience was an essential one to have in order to achieve maturity.
I'd even go so far as to posit that the learning and growth experience is a constant one that ends when they chisel your epitaph into your headstone. That last line is powerful. We all need to be reminded that no matter how old we are, we will always be changing and growing. I realized this recently I'm only 18 and I'm going to do everything in my power to move out my parents house as soon as I can.
College doesn't make you grow up. College can, however, provide analytical, philosophical, and logical tools that change how you view and experience the world, at a very important time in one's intellectual development.
Someone who has gone to college may have trouble forming a meaningful, equal relationship with someone who has not, unless that person is exceptional. Furthermore, me saying so is not an assault on your value. Perhaps, for the sake of discussion, I could have stated my argument in a way that established an ontological framework for debate. I could have talked about the development of the pre-frontal cortex in the early 20's as the physiological marker of one's ability to develop reason and decision making. I could have discussed the symbolic cultural meaning behind the goths' fashion choices and my ex-gf's objection to them, as well as debate the meta-semiotics and epistemology that allow me to articulate the meaning of "goth" in ways she could not.
I could do a lot of things, but I was responding to the question: I guess I'll refine my answer. Date if you want, but the relationship could be rocky, as you're in two different places in your life. One is just beginning a journey of self-actualization, the other is well along that road and possesses many skills that the other does not for understanding and dealing with the world, some of which cannot be gained outside of activities specifically designed to cultivate them and one of the places those activities are often promoted is college.
As to whether that is a judgement on people who haven't been to college, and what the meaning of "maturity" is in the context of the college experience, well, that's rather outside the scope of the question I was responding to. I believe more weight is on what kind of person they are. They are many types of people, some will ultimately gain nothing but a piece of paper and hopefully a slightly higher paying job from a degree, some will take it and create leaps in their intellectual ability, some will have no personal growth meaning unlikely to be much through out their life, others will become a new person.
My point is he should meet the girl and find out what kind of person she is. Does she show character and maturity? If there are no signs of such at her age don't even bother it is likely many more years away. For a while I was with a guy who was 8 years older than me who hadn't been to college.
I eventually outgrew him, emotionally and intellectually. We became incompatible because my college experience widened the gap so much. I highly doubt it was college, it was you two are vastly different people. If he had gone to college he would still be the same. It is not college that made you incompatible, you were always incompatible. My father dropped out of college, my mother has a college degree in micro biology and my father is a far more intelligent and mature person than my mother, to which my mother has no problem admitting.
They very much are compatible, my guess is it is something deeper than the college issue that truly ended your relationship. The difference is life experience, not college experience. I went to college. My girlfriend who is now 23 never went to college, but we still have a lot in common.
Admittedly, college wasn't really an experience for me. It was just classes and some parties. They'd be at different stages in life. To put it in another perspective, a 13 year old is in Jr. A 17 year old is a senior or junior if your birthday is earlier in high school. When I was in college, there were a couple years when my girlfriend was still in high school My former high school. She was a cheerleader and would beg and beg and push me to come to the football games to watch her cheer. This hits close to home. But the summer before her senior year of high school started and before I started college, we actually broke up because we would argue about this shit before it even happened.
Then it made me realize how hard that shit is to work even with just one year of separation. High school and college life are just so different. I was 27 when I started dating my wife, who was 18 at the time. We've been together for 7 years now. There've been good times and bad times, but that's all relationships. The hard part is realizing when you have to switch from a 'protector' mindset to a 'partner' mindset.
I didn't catch it in time, and now it's something we're working through. Shit's hard, but nothing worth doing is easy. Meet her with no assumptions. What's the worst that can happen? Obviously he thinks a lot of you, which is good, but tell the dad to give you two some space and time to talk and get to know each other, with no promises or expectations. Life gap is really important. If you know it can't go anywhere, so it's only for short term gratification at her expense, then predatory might be accurate.
Many friends did when I was a student. The problem you run into is that the relationships are based on pure physical attraction and partying most of the time. I mean, what will you talk about. You have bills and car payment and a job to worry about. They've got an AP math quiz tomorrow and a rumor is going around that some girl is pregnant in their English class. Just can't stand 'em. Sure, it's not creepy IMO or illegal but there's no way that I would ever do it unless she was really mature.
I get annoyed with women my own age 22 , I can't imagine it being better when they're younger. I'd say it depends on the people involved. Is she mature for her age? Ideally I'd like to be in the same phase of life, so it's definitely a "con", but if everything else is perfect, I don't see anything necessarily wrong with it. I am just out of college, and I visited a kid I used to coach who's a sophomore now.
I didn't think the age gap would be much of a problem, but what you said put it perfectly. It's not an age gap, it's a life gap. Every girl I met there felt like a 16 year old to me I swear they were all To each their own man, but thinking about where I was in life compared to where I am now, I can't imagine dating someone who's still in high school. My current SO is 2 years younger than me I'm female , which was culture shock enough for me as I had never previously been with anyone younger.
However, his life experiences by 19 have far surpassed those of most college graduates, which made him the exception to the rule. I don't think anything of it now, until I'm around him and his friends who are all also 2 years younger who don't display the confidence, strength and intelligence my SO does.
I'd say it's about the life in their years rather than the years in the life, though there's quite a bit of life packed into your college years. When I was in college, I dated a few different college guys who were a few years older than me like years older. They were horrible relationships. A friend introduced me to another friend of his, who was going to be a senior in high school. He was more mature than any of the guys I dated in college. We met 4 years ago, and are still dating.
I would say it would be weird. I dated a girl in January who was 18 and a college freshman while I was on my way out of college at It was a huge mistake because I was on my way to graduating and starting a career which I have and she was just getting into the groove of college. I just graduated at I don't remember who I was 6 months ago because I have been changing so much. I could never imagine having a mutual relationship with someone who has not had a similar time frame for their emotional and mental maturity. I just started my PhD and I could not imagine myself with a freshman or maybe even a sophomore.
The differences in maturity are going to be most likely huge, along with you both wanting different things. Dating in high school was awkward when we were still in high school. The age gap only adds more awkwardness, and possibly illegality to that. I dated a high school senior when I was We dated for two years and it worked pretty well for a while, but at that point in life, she hasn't experienced much of what you have and the fact that you're going into the "real world" and she's not even at university level puts strains on the relationship, not to mention that she will most likely undergo some personality changes maturing during her next few years.
People at different life stages might as well be in a different planet for the most part in terms of relating in any sort of romantic way. Knowing them as a friend or colleague is one thing, but there's a whole lotta growing up that happens at each phase. I'm old and married with kids, so if I had to date again I'd probably look for someone in a similar place to me, especially since I'd not have to relive the annoying parts of someone gaining life experience.
The thing is, you grow and change so much as a person between 19 and She probably won't even resemble her 19 year old self at Think about who you were at that age, and who you are now. Everyone should have the chance to come into their own and figure out who they are individually without being put on a permanent life path like marriage. It's nearly impossible to reconcile the differences between a post-university mindset and a high school mindset.
If you're just looking to be that creepy guy hooking up with high school girls then more power to you, but if you're looking for a relationship there's virtually no chance of it working out. Underclassmen in college at least have the college experience under their belt. Someone out of high school more often than not will be on another planet compared to a 22 year old. When I was a freshman in college I dated a high school senior. It was fun for awhile, but then you realize you're going to end up repeating a lot of shit you just did.
After I turned 21, I never really felt the need to date anyone younger than that, as I didn't want restrictions on what we could do socially. Granted she was fairly mature for her age but she was still too immature for long term potential, mainly because all of her friends were also her age and she was about to go off to college. It was a very fun Summer, though. Sure you could be 22 and she But those are possibly the 4 most developmental years of your life.
A cousin of mine is the same age at me at 22, and dating a 19 year old, she turned 19 like last month. She is so immature, she just seems in a completely different stage in the life cycle than me. Yeah I'll admit, shes a 10 easily, crazy hot and props to the cuz for that, but I couldn't date her.
I would have felt weird about it as a freshman in college I didn't have a girlfriend going in so I would have had to start a relationship. Hell by junior year the college freshman seemed super imature and young to me. It doesn't for me based solely on age.
It's mostly the maturity level and of course that can vary. While the great majority of high school seniors would be too immature or not relate to me I know a few high school students that are more mature than many adults I know. It's not likely that I would consider having a relationship with someone still in HS but like with any relationship I would consider entering it's going to be based on my interactions with that specific person. I'm certainly not going to put or create set "rules" about age limits or how they relate to maturity levels. Humans are far too complex and diverse for that to be logical or a good idea.
There is a formula for that: I personally wouldn't feel weird in the scenario that you describe. I'm 22 and just graduated college. Hell, I would have felt weird dating a high school senior when I was a sophomore in college. As others have pointed out, it's not age at all. By my senior year of college, those people I'd have felt creepy dating two years before were sophomores in college and it felt less weird. At the college I went to, a commonly used term was "froshy" to describe freshmen who still had that indescribable childishness that came with not having that life experience.
Pretty much everyone goes through that phase. I'm 22, so maybe. If they're actually my type, then yeah, but I don't see it as being nearly as common when someone's Sounds like a nightmare. I don't think I can stand anyone under I'm about to turn In fact I could barely date a freshmen right now. I keep thinking that their will be regrets of being in a relationship with someone all through college.
I'm 17 and in a great relationship with a 20 year old. I'm soon to be 18, he's even sooner to be He's also a graduate with a good degree in Electronic Communications. He's working full time as a waiter, it's how we met, while searching for a better job and I'm finishing up High School. We come from completely different backgrounds, his English isn't great but some things just work. I understand the importance of a strong work ethic as well as how helpful it is to be frugal. In return he can geek out with me when it comes to Harry Potter and Korra.
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We've both got experience in the dating department, me more than him, but still when it comes down to it age really doesn't matter. So yes, while there are some awful examples where this age gap hasn't worked, there are some instances where it has. Baring some weird exceptions, I feel like the absolute youngest I would go is a college sophomore. Even a college freshman would probably be to young for me, at least a sophomore has a full year of living on their own under their belt at least living on their own relative to still being minors at their parents house, I realize many college students still arn't "living on their own" in the same sense as somebody with an apartment and a full time job.
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I'm 33, and clearly remember meeting my friends now wife when she was 18 and we were I thought she was a child, and was like 'dude'. Nowadays, I'd love a 28 year old GF. That aside, I always though early twenties guys going for HS girls was a drop-out townie thing for losers that get what they can while they can still buy them beer and not get arrested. When I was 21 I would never even dream of dating a high school girl.
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